“Why Did You Stay?”

“Why did you stay,” the question comes up often and although I get that people do want to understand “why a woman stays in an abusive relationship” I believe the insistence of looking at “Why she stays.” infers that she actually has power and control in the situation-and that is not the case.

In the attached video I address how this question feels for me, I have found that I am being asked often when I am speaking to audiences about it and candidly the question has been getting under my skin-so I wrote about it. I decided to try something different and instead of posting my written thoughts have created this video where I read my thoughts on this subject.

I welcome your comments and encourage a dialogue regarding this important subject. Thank you for taking the time to view it!